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The Power of Gratitude in Relationships

18 Oct

A four-year research study found that gratitude contributes to a mutual process of relationship maintenance, in which each partner’s maintenance behaviors, perceptions of responsiveness, and feelings of gratitude feed back on and influence the other partner’s behaviors, perceptions, and feelings.  In other words when a spouse felt gratitude towards the other, and they expressed that gratitude in some external way, this outward expression produced and influenced the other spouse’s feelings and behaviors of gratitude.  This process between the two spouses was like a continuous feedback loop because gratitude motivates partners to engage in relationship maintenance.

Feeling gratitude without expressing it, is like wrapping a present and not giving it.

After reading this article, I started thinking about my relationship with my husband.  I examined my acts of gratitude and relationship maintenance.  I believe I am consistent and sincere when I express how much I appreciate him and everything he does for me.  I am conscious of my behavior simply because my husband constantly shows me gratitude and I want to do the same to him.  Actually he is good at showing everyone (who deserves it) gratitude.  Anyone that knows him will attest to that. Based on this research, I’m sure that I conscientiously show him gratitude in many ways, because it is a natural response to his gratuitous behavior towards me.

So, the next time someone does something nice for you, don’t forget express your gratitude…it’s as easy as saying Thank You!

Meltdown Avoided

9 Oct

I almost had one today.  Thankfully, Mrs. Burch and Mr. Run came to my rescue.  For various reasons I was feeling frustrated, and out-of-sorts.  I’m not sure if it had anything to do with it raining for two days straight, good old hormones, or just plain craziness, but I wasn’t in a great place today….not horribly bad, but not great either.  Defense is the best offense, so I went shopping and then for a short run.  Thanks to 25% off at Tory Burch I brought the Amanda double snap wallet.  I saw it last month while searching for a new wallet.  Today I figured I couldn’t pass up the 25% off since the sale ends tomorrow.

Cheery Cherry Red!

When I returned home, I was still feeling somewhat antsy, so I went for short two miler.  It felt good to get outside after two days of rain . During my run I listened to the Millionaire Next Door (great book, if you haven’t read it).  I normally read books on my iPad, but I’m starting to jump on the  Audio Book craze that my husband is sooo hooked on. I hardly ever listen to the local radio station anymore, so the Audio Book app fills that void.

Thanks for listening to my rant, I feel much better now…have a great Sunday evening.


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Back to Blogging

8 Aug

When blogging began to feel like a job, meaning I began to stress about finding subjects talk about, comments counts, and track backs, I decided to ‘quit’.  During my blogging hiatus there have been several events that have occurred, that have altered the course of this newlywed’s life, such as: selling our house, the death of my father-n-law, and our decision to become debt-free by year-end. These events, culminated with other, others have opened me up to many different experiences, for which I will forever be thankful.

Life as Mrs. Williams has been wonderful!  We celebrated our one year anniversary on May 28th, and it was (for lack of a better word) awesome!  My husband is the best! He continuously inspires me to be the best wife I can be.  He encourages my latest obsessions and passions with genuine interest and enthusiasm.

I want to thank the many people who reached out to me via email and or Facebook to make sure all was well in my life.  I really appreciate your thoughtfulness and kind words.  How cool it is for people you have never met to show care and concern?  Wow! has the world changed…for the better.

I’m looking forward to blogging about my latest adventures, projects, and passions, so stay tuned….

Friday’s Random Rants

17 Dec

Because we were in Houston for a for days I had to catchup on my coursework, thus I haven’t posted a blog. Today I posting a few random events that occurred the past few days.
(I’m typing this on my WordPress app as I drive to the mall to buy Dr. B’s Xmas present.. Do not try this at home 🙂

We accumulated enough Hilton Honors points for two free nights, which were going to use for our stay in Jacksonville during Christmas (cha ching)

I did Billy Blank’s Tae Bo cardio workout yesterday, and he didn’t beat me down as bad as he did last week.

The cold weather killed all of my annuals despite the fact that we covered them up. It was such a sad sight to see… I pulled them up yesterday.

Today I ran 4.5 miles in 45 min. Certainly not my best time, but it felt good to be out running in the sun and fresh air.

Yesterday I went to my chiropractor. I have a nagging pain in my upper back near my shoulder. The pain got worse last year and I went to her for about six months. The pain comes back occasionally so I decided to start back OMG you should have heard my back and neck popping it sounded like the Fourth of July, but I felt like someone gave me a new body 😉

Tomorrow Dr. B and I are volunteering at a Christmas toy give away. Last year we helped organize all the toys, this year we will actually help hand them out.

Were having custom Christmas cards made and I just ordered them yesterday. Needless to say I had to pay extra for express shipping. I’m not looking forward to standing in a long arse line at the post office, but that’s exactly what it’s going to come down to because I procrastinated 😦

Lastly, I’m a lipgloss girl. I prefer Nars. But for the past week I found myself using the red Loreal lipstick the makeup artist who did my makeup for my wedding gave to me. I really love how it looks with my complexion.

I hate going to the mall during the holidays…it’s insane!

I can’t believe how hot it is today, 70 degrees, after days of 30’s and 40’s.

I’m at the mall now, and I found a parking space on my first go around!!!

What’s been going on in your world?

Selling Myself Short

27 Sep

Me and my Shirley Temple hair!

As I was running this morning, I got to thinking about how I’m my toughest critic.  Sometimes I don’t give myself a break.  For some reason, I don’t normally give myself credit for being the best wife, friend, daughter, sister, person I can humanly be.  Dr. B says one of the reasons he married me is because I have an uncanny ability to look at myself from an unbiased standpoint.   If Dr. B and I have a disagreement, I have no problem examining and articulating what part I played, and how I affected the situation.   I’m saying all this to say, I’m not perfect and I beat myself up when I make mistakes, especially as a wife.  Just because I have Mrs. in front of my name now, doesn’t mean I’m a new person.  I keep trying, everyday.  I put one foot in front of the other and I pray to God to help me be the wife Dr. B needs me to be.  But, I’m the same sometime moody, regimented, clutter-free, dry wit, running addicted, no pork and red meat eating, disliking Sci-fi, shopping loving girl I was before I got married….And you know what?  It’s  perfectly fine!

What is Means to be a Wife

1 Jul

Yesterday I had the pleasure of having my brother blog about what it means for him to be a husband.  Today his wife(the 2nd half of this dynamic duo) will touch on what is means to her to be a wife(how awesome is that?).  I just have to say this couple can hold there own with the best of them.  They are 100% dedicated to each other and it’s so refreshing to be around them.  Mrs. Baker the floor is your….

Guest author, Suwanda Baker

What does it mean to be a wife? I mean, I know that is the question I should be answering, but daily I struggle with a definite definition of the word *wife*. On Monday I may be the supportive wife, on Tuesday I may be a “ride or die” wife 🙂 , and on Wednesday I might just be the attentive wife… etc. Being a wife comes with a lot of responsibilities. I am grateful to have someone who trusts in me to be able to handle those responsibilities while remaining sane, rational, and humble.

How does being a wife feel? Honestly, I tell many people that it feels well… legal. My husband and I chose to live together before we got married. Once we started setting up joint accounts, and planning for major purchases together, we realized that it was definitely time to move or relationship forward towards marriage. Marriage is a commitment that many people are afraid to make, because it is (and should be) a permanent, til death do us part, commitment. Being his wife makes me feel secure in regards to our relationship, and it is definitely a blessing to have found someone who cares about me for me.

Being a wife is such an extraordinary experience.  At night as I lay in bed, it feels really good just knowing there is someone laying next to me who feels safe and secure enough to share his deepest thoughts with me. Being a wife is one of the greatest joys that I have experienced thus far in my life.   I am proud to say I’m Bobby “Mal” Baker’s wife all day, every day, and forever…

The Dynamic Duo

Beautiful words by a beautiful, caring a compassionate, person.  These two are so good together, I wish them many, many years of joy and happiness.

So readers there you have it a one-two punch husband and wifedom 🙂  What does being a wife mean to you?  I’d love to hear you sentiments….

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What it Means to be a Husband

30 Jun

I’m soooooo excited today as I have my first guest writer on Natasha the Newlywed *does a little jig* It’s none other than my brother Jamal,(check out his blog) who himself is also a  newlywed( as of April 24th).  With great pride I asked him to write about what it means to him to be a husband.  So, baby bro take it away….

Guest writer, Jamal Baker

My sister asked me to be a guest writer for her blog Natasha the Newlywed. I’m more than honored to write about what it means to me to be a husband(I’ve only been married for two months). To be honest with you, when I think of my title as a “husband”, I feel a sense of pride, because as tradition has it, I’m the head of a household. When something goes wrong or needs to be fixed it’s my responsibility to make it right, because as the man of the house all “eyes” will be on me.

Being a husband is also a humbling experience.  Humbling in that I met and married a woman who believes that I’m the only man she wants to spend the rest of her life with.  It’s humbling because regardless of the mistakes that I’ve made in the past, she has loved me through them all.

I put it in the perspective that out of ALL the guys that she’s ever met and will try to hit on her meet; I am the one that she decided that she could have the best relationship and life with.  Most men won’t admit it, but it gives men a sense of pride to be able to say your “married, and off the market”, but I will say it with much pride and happiness.

To me, being a husband means that I’m turned the corner to manhood.  Were no longer boyfriend and girlfriend.  Were no longer in a temporary state of living together.  I no longer have the option to leave if things get hectic.  Were married and that means till death do us part.  It takes a man to live up to a life long commitment such as marriage.  I know many young couples that have been together and aren’t married. I’m proud that were NOT be one of those couples.

Lastly, it’s oftentimes the little things that identify me as a married, ignites a sparkle inside of me. For example filling out forms and checking “married”; seeing my  “married” status on Facebook, being called “Mr. and Mrs. Baker”, or being asked “how’s the wife?”  Those are the little things that about married life that make me happy.   But, the biggest joy is having a wonderful woman in my life that I can to claim as my wife.

So in closing, I say to everybody, if you are with somebody that you truly love, and you feel like they are the one – get married.  For those couples, there’s no logical reason to NOT be married.   Marriage is a wonderful unity between two people who love and care for each other.  I love you Suwanda Baker, and it means the world to me, that you chose me as your husband.

Jamal and Suwanda

Readers, what does it mean a husband or wife…I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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