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Eye Contact is the Morse Code of Love

15 Nov
Author: Bagande

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I’m a people watcher.  I love going into restaurants and watching couples interact. It’s often a telltale sign of the type of relationship they have.  For instance couples that hardly speak a word to each other during the entire time that they are eating, I often wonder how long they’ve been married.  Or when I see a couple that when seated at a booth, choose to sit next to each other rather than across from each other, I wonder if they just started dating.  One of Dr. B’s favorite sayings is, “that’s an outward sign of an inward condition.”  Which I truly believe holds true for married couples.  Have you ever been at a party or social gathering and know that a couple came together, but they limited interaction doing the entire event?  Do you pick up on those types of signs?  I often wonder if as time goes by, do most couples lose the fire, or do the sparks begin to fade?  Maybe they just aren’t in love with each other anymore…

A study that was published in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology in 1970 titled: Measurement of Romantic Love determined that the way to tell if a couple is in love is to watch their eye contact.  It was stated that:

Normally two people in conversation give each other eye contact anywhere from 30-60% of the time, but couples who are in love look at each other 75% of the time during conversation and are slower to break their look away from each other when interrupted.

Speaking from past experience, it makes perfect sense. If you don’t like someone, much less love them, you surely don’t want to be around that person and you’re not going to staring into their eyes.  Things like eye contact, holding hands, packs on the cheek, pats on the butt… those little things hold a lot of meaning in a relationship.  Each couple has their own little’ intimates’, which is what I call those physical interactions that keep you feeling connected to your loved one.  Your own Morse code of sorts.

What signs or ‘intimates’ have you witnessed in a short-lived or lasting relationship?  Do you and your loved one have a Morse code?

Natasha

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A House Divided… iPhone 4S VS Samsung Galaxy S II

7 Nov

I’m a the #AppleFanGirl4Life.   Apple can do no wrong in my book.  In the 4 years since I’ve switched from a pc to a Mac, I’ve never gotten a virus, and the only time my laptop has crashed was when I was in Barnes and Nobles, and I accidentally spilled hot green tea on it 😦  I’m the proud owner of the iPhone 4, iPad, and Macbook Air.  They are the air that I breath, and the wind beneath my wings.  So… imagine my horror, when Dr. B (a supposed Apple devotee) decided to switch to the Samsung Galaxy S when it was time to upgrade his phone.  My first thought was, “who is this man I married?…I don’t recognize him anymore.”  Mr. Steve Jobs, I apologize if my husband has offended you, he knows not what he does.

I ordered a white iPhone 4S on Sunday!!!!  I cannot wait to get my hands on this phone.  The first thing I’ll ask Siri is, “is this my husband, or has he been replaced with an Android powered alien?”  Only Siri can help me now.  I feel sorry for Dr. B, he actually likes his big ole phone Samsung.  Oh well,  just wait until he hears me and Siri chatting it up…someone’s gonna be jealous… 🙂

Who has the ‘better’ phone in your house?

Natasha

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Meltdown Avoided

9 Oct

I almost had one today.  Thankfully, Mrs. Burch and Mr. Run came to my rescue.  For various reasons I was feeling frustrated, and out-of-sorts.  I’m not sure if it had anything to do with it raining for two days straight, good old hormones, or just plain craziness, but I wasn’t in a great place today….not horribly bad, but not great either.  Defense is the best offense, so I went shopping and then for a short run.  Thanks to 25% off at Tory Burch I brought the Amanda double snap wallet.  I saw it last month while searching for a new wallet.  Today I figured I couldn’t pass up the 25% off since the sale ends tomorrow.

Cheery Cherry Red!

When I returned home, I was still feeling somewhat antsy, so I went for short two miler.  It felt good to get outside after two days of rain . During my run I listened to the Millionaire Next Door (great book, if you haven’t read it).  I normally read books on my iPad, but I’m starting to jump on the  Audio Book craze that my husband is sooo hooked on. I hardly ever listen to the local radio station anymore, so the Audio Book app fills that void.

Thanks for listening to my rant, I feel much better now…have a great Sunday evening.

Natasha

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Are We Still Newlyweds?

5 Oct

What time frame constitutes being a newlywed? 1 year, 2 years, 1.5 years?   Dr. B and I have been married for 1 year and 5 months.  Are we till considered newlyweds…or is the honeymoon – over?  For whatever reason I’ve been thinking about how much longer we have before our Newlywed status runs out.  When it does, I will have to change the name of my blog.  Am I late already in that regard?  I’m not one to mislead readers, and hold faux claim to a title that I’m no longer eligible for.   When does one said couple transition from newlywed status to just being – married?

Marriage is Like Running

3 Oct

As long as I can remember I’ve been a runner.  As a child I loved running and racing, and now as an adult I couldn’t imagine enjoying anything more except for being married.  Running is hard, very hard a times.  It’s much more mental for me than most would believe.  The night before, I mentally set precedence for the mileage I will run the next day.  If I’m feeling tired, then I mentally calculate how I will feel the next day during my run, and thus set a mileage goal.  The same goes with being married.  I decide if I want to get an attitude about something, or if I want to approach my husband as an adult and tell him what’s bothering me…it’s all mental.

Sometimes, I will have my mind-set on something, like what I think we should or shouldn’t do as a couple.  Then a funny thing will happen, just like during a run I realize, I have sold myself short.  Instead of only doing 3 miles, I feel good enough to continue and push through to 5 miles.  Instead of being one tracked and thinking I know best all the time, I realize I have actually limited our growth as a couple because I was too stubborn to see past me.  During those times, I reset my thinking to that which is essential to our goals as a couple and my growth as a wife.

So you see, for me running/marriage are both very similar.   They are repetitive, pleasurable, and with practice you get better over time.  Running/marriage feel great on good days, sometimes painful on those occasional ‘not so good’ days, and just right on those ‘in between’ days.  But I stay focused and continue to progress as a wife and as a runner, because they are a part of who I am, what I love, and what I believe in.

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Back to Blogging

8 Aug

When blogging began to feel like a job, meaning I began to stress about finding subjects talk about, comments counts, and track backs, I decided to ‘quit’.  During my blogging hiatus there have been several events that have occurred, that have altered the course of this newlywed’s life, such as: selling our house, the death of my father-n-law, and our decision to become debt-free by year-end. These events, culminated with other, others have opened me up to many different experiences, for which I will forever be thankful.

Life as Mrs. Williams has been wonderful!  We celebrated our one year anniversary on May 28th, and it was (for lack of a better word) awesome!  My husband is the best! He continuously inspires me to be the best wife I can be.  He encourages my latest obsessions and passions with genuine interest and enthusiasm.

I want to thank the many people who reached out to me via email and or Facebook to make sure all was well in my life.  I really appreciate your thoughtfulness and kind words.  How cool it is for people you have never met to show care and concern?  Wow! has the world changed…for the better.

I’m looking forward to blogging about my latest adventures, projects, and passions, so stay tuned….

Facebook “Friends” and Divorce

1 Feb
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A few weeks ago for class assignment, I was researching the percentage of divorces that were attributed to Facebook.  I was designing a study to measure the correlation between divorce and Facebook use.  I found several articles here and here about the link (or possible link) between Facebook and divorce.

The article in the Telegraph states:

The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to.

Flirty emails and messages found on Facebook pages are increasingly being cited as evidence of unreasonable behaviour.

I was wondering if this is actually true?  Is the average Joe or Jane actually using FB to cheat?  If I were putting together a web-survey here are a few questions I would include:

Do you know anyone that divorce or even broke-up because of Facebook?

Was the inclination to cheat already present, and Facebook added fuel to the fire?

Are women more likely to cheat using FB as opposed to men?

Is there a link between the number of “friends” and the cheating? (ie. the more friends a person has, the more likely that person is to cheat)

What do you think, what’s your opinion on this topic?

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