Tag Archives: Black people

Pure Ignorance at it’s Best!

4 Oct

I was surfing the internet and came across this bullsh** as I watched the Jaguars and Colts battle it out – 8 Reasons to Date a White Man. Seriously, WTH?  Supposedly this article is written by a a black female who is married to a black male, I can only think that this is a “publicity stunt” to gain readership.  We all know people love controversy.  Being married to a black man, I just cannot, cannot, approve of this foolishness.  For example reason number 7, Have the Ability to Look Beyond Our Past,

Ever wonder why White people can date the friends of exes and so on? It’s because they don’t let the past hinder the present. Promiscuous Black men think they deserve to settle down with virgins, and allow past relationships to haunt the present. Not White men. They have no problem turning a hoe into a housewife.

I call this pure unadulterated, over-generalizing, self-decepreciating, bigot, bullshiggity at it’s best.  Who says this stuff?  What, what, what was she thinking?  I’m not going to get into the black/white dating debate that not relevant to this post.  Here are some the generalizations she wrote about black men:

  • on the down-low
  • college dropout
  • can’t take care of themselves
  • baby daddy
  • thugs
  • financially unstable

Wow! I know men of all races that have characteristics the author listed.  You know…I’m not mad at her, just sad for her.  She has obviously led an isolated life.  I even feel sorry for her husband – I wonder what she thinks about him…?

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The Black Church and Single Women: A Correlation?

12 Aug

I read an interesting article in CNN today, Does the Black Church Keep Black Women Single? I thought, “here is another article explaining why a majority of black women aren’t married.”  But,after reading the article in it’s entirety, I did see some truth to the claim.  Deborrah Cooper, a dating a relationship columnist, who blogs at Survivingdating.com is the author behind the claim.  Deborrah states that,

Black women have an inordinate amount of faith in both Black men and Black churches.  My position is that such blind and unwavering faith in either is misplaced.  It is my belief that the Black church, structured around traditional gender roles which makes women submissive to and inferior to men, greatly limits females.  Single Black women sitting in church every Sunday are being subtly brainwashed, soothed and placated into waiting without demand for what they want to magically come to them.  Who is doing this to Black women?  The male standing in the front of the church in the role of spiritual leader, that’s who!

From my own personal experience… when I was searching for a church home I encountered some cult-like churches where the people, not just the women, idolized the pastor *I got up and left in the middle of the service*  So, I can see her point…I know a few single black females who hang on Every.Single.Word. that their pastor says 😦  I remember a time when my former pastor gave a sermon on sex, and he spoke about not having see until your married…ummm…yes I know what the bible says .  But, that easier said than done.  Especially coming from someone who has been married for 15 years (you get yours on the regular…)  Times like that I felt that the church was a “little” out of sync with reality (aka. 2010).

But, alas, I’m not hear to preach the word.  I found a very interesting perspective on the “single Black Female” phenomenon that’s the talk of the media, and I wanted to share it. I’m just happy I’m not a statistic anymore.  🙂

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