As long as I can remember I’ve been a runner. As a child I loved running and racing, and now as an adult I couldn’t imagine enjoying anything more except for being married. Running is hard, very hard a times. It’s much more mental for me than most would believe. The night before, I mentally set precedence for the mileage I will run the next day. If I’m feeling tired, then I mentally calculate how I will feel the next day during my run, and thus set a mileage goal. The same goes with being married. I decide if I want to get an attitude about something, or if I want to approach my husband as an adult and tell him what’s bothering me…it’s all mental.
Sometimes, I will have my mind-set on something, like what I think we should or shouldn’t do as a couple. Then a funny thing will happen, just like during a run I realize, I have sold myself short. Instead of only doing 3 miles, I feel good enough to continue and push through to 5 miles. Instead of being one tracked and thinking I know best all the time, I realize I have actually limited our growth as a couple because I was too stubborn to see past me. During those times, I reset my thinking to that which is essential to our goals as a couple and my growth as a wife.
So you see, for me running/marriage are both very similar. They are repetitive, pleasurable, and with practice you get better over time. Running/marriage feel great on good days, sometimes painful on those occasional ‘not so good’ days, and just right on those ‘in between’ days. But I stay focused and continue to progress as a wife and as a runner, because they are a part of who I am, what I love, and what I believe in.