Yesterday I read the article Get Fat and I’m Dumping You. The article discusses the idea of divorcing your spouse if they gained weight after marriage (I’ll save that particular topic for another day :-). I’m more interested in one of the other main points the author raised, which was that couples should be in agreement when it comes to diet health and fitness:
Most couples fight about money, sex, chores and children, but weight often factors into those issues. And just like a couple needs to be in tune with how they’ll raise their children and spend or save their money, they probably need to be like-minded when it comes to diet, health and fitness.
I couldn’t agree more. Dr. B and I met on Match.com and our profile both listed health and fitness as our interests. I have always been more attracted to men that worked out and took care of themselves. That’s not to say I would not have married a man who wasn’t into health and fitness, but I was aware that if I did marry a man who wasn’t, than we would not share an interest in something that I am passionate about – which for me is not an ideal situation. Although Dr. B and I didn’t have a health discussion before we were married, we both just kind of agreed about continuing our healthy lifestyles.
But, the idea of discussing health, fitness and nutrition up front and coming to an “agreement” about what type of lifestyle you would like to lead as a couple just makes a lot of sense to me. I want to live a long prosperous life with Dr. B, we both know we won’t achieve that if we don’t take care of ourselves. That means working out at least 5 days a week, eating healthy, and going to the doctor for routine check-ups and physicals. If you don’t have you health, what do you have? As the article says, engaged couples discuss money, children, and sex but, not health and nutrition. Shame on us for not realizing how our health is to a healthy marriage.
Do you and your husband have the same mindset when it comes to health and fitness? Did you discuss this topic before you were married, and has the topic health, fitness, nutrition of weight been a topic of debate between you?
- Vision Statement for Health/Nutrition/Fitness (greenstylemom.blogspot.com)
- Fit as a Fiddle (swampsurvival.wordpress.com)