Window Shopping and Infidelity

2 Sep

Window shopping on our first date! As I previously mentioned that Dr. B and I have taken two of free courses from Simple Marriage.  Well, last week I received two great articles from Simple Marriage, It’s Just Window Shopping, and Redefining Fidelity.  Both articles center around the topic of men “window shopping”, or “staring” at other women in a sexual way and the marital troubles it can lead to.  Dr. B and I like discuss the Simple Marriage articles.  We feel that discussing them helps to open the lines of communication in our marriage, and leads to a stronger, healthier marriage. So, when we discussed the It’s Just Window Shopping, it was a bit of a sore spot for me.  You see, a few weeks into our relationship, Dr. B had  a “checking out a chick” incident  that “slightly angered” me.  I had to “politely advise” Dr. B of how it made me feel, and what it represented to me as a woman.  I know some women have no problem what-so-ever with their man staring at other women, I’m not one of them.  It burns me up!  I Do. Not. Like. It!  For me, it’s not about jealously or envy, but disrespect. To Dr. B’s defense he was still in his “bachelor mode” and I had to help “break” him out of it.  Re assured he hasn’t had another “incident” since then (he’s a fast learner).

I have to say window shopping is a form of infidelity for me.  If a man cannot control his eyes, then he isn’t the man for me.  Basically it’s a deal breaker.  There are things that I can compromise on, but window shopping is not one.  What say you, am I overreacting?  Have you had to deal with your husband “window shopping” how did you approach the subject?  Read the articles and tell me what you think.

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2 Responses to “Window Shopping and Infidelity”

  1. Happy Nappy Bride September 2, 2010 at 10:51 pm #

    I’m the same way about sneaking peeks…drives me crazy! You like those Simple Marriage emails? We’re thinking about signing up for them.

  2. Tiffany In Houston September 3, 2010 at 3:24 pm #

    I think that it’s human nature to glance at an attractive person, it’s disrespectful and rude to GAWK.

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