As I previously mentioned that Dr. B and I have taken two of free courses from Simple Marriage. Well, last week I received two great articles from Simple Marriage, It’s Just Window Shopping, and Redefining Fidelity. Both articles center around the topic of men “window shopping”, or “staring” at other women in a sexual way and the marital troubles it can lead to. Dr. B and I like discuss the Simple Marriage articles. We feel that discussing them helps to open the lines of communication in our marriage, and leads to a stronger, healthier marriage. So, when we discussed the It’s Just Window Shopping, it was a bit of a sore spot for me. You see, a few weeks into our relationship, Dr. B had a “checking out a chick” incident that “slightly angered” me. I had to “politely advise” Dr. B of how it made me feel, and what it represented to me as a woman. I know some women have no problem what-so-ever with their man staring at other women, I’m not one of them. It burns me up! I Do. Not. Like. It! For me, it’s not about jealously or envy, but disrespect. To Dr. B’s defense he was still in his “bachelor mode” and I had to help “break” him out of it. Re assured he hasn’t had another “incident” since then (he’s a fast learner).
I have to say window shopping is a form of infidelity for me. If a man cannot control his eyes, then he isn’t the man for me. Basically it’s a deal breaker. There are things that I can compromise on, but window shopping is not one. What say you, am I overreacting? Have you had to deal with your husband “window shopping” how did you approach the subject? Read the articles and tell me what you think.
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