I read an interesting article in CNN today, Does the Black Church Keep Black Women Single? I thought, “here is another article explaining why a majority of black women aren’t married.” But,after reading the article in it’s entirety, I did see some truth to the claim. Deborrah Cooper, a dating a relationship columnist, who blogs at Survivingdating.com is the author behind the claim. Deborrah states that,
Black women have an inordinate amount of faith in both Black men and Black churches. My position is that such blind and unwavering faith in either is misplaced. It is my belief that the Black church, structured around traditional gender roles which makes women submissive to and inferior to men, greatly limits females. Single Black women sitting in church every Sunday are being subtly brainwashed, soothed and placated into waiting without demand for what they want to magically come to them. Who is doing this to Black women? The male standing in the front of the church in the role of spiritual leader, that’s who!
From my own personal experience… when I was searching for a church home I encountered some cult-like churches where the people, not just the women, idolized the pastor *I got up and left in the middle of the service* So, I can see her point…I know a few single black females who hang on Every.Single.Word. that their pastor says 😦 I remember a time when my former pastor gave a sermon on sex, and he spoke about not having see until your married…ummm…yes I know what the bible says . But, that easier said than done. Especially coming from someone who has been married for 15 years (you get yours on the regular…) Times like that I felt that the church was a “little” out of sync with reality (aka. 2010).
But, alas, I’m not hear to preach the word. I found a very interesting perspective on the “single Black Female” phenomenon that’s the talk of the media, and I wanted to share it. I’m just happy I’m not a statistic anymore. 🙂
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