Setting Boundaries: Everyone Can’t be in Your Front Row

27 Jul

Relationships are sacred, and it’s important for newly married couples to choose their audience carefully.  That entails carefully

Limit your front row seat audience

evaluating relationships with friends and family, and deciding if they deserve a front row seat, or if they should be placed in the balcony.  Not everyone’s intention’s are good and positive.  Not everyone is happy for you.  Not everyone has your best interest as a couple at heart.  People can be self-serving and selfish.  Jealousy and envy can cloud a friend’s rationale, and make them act out in unloving ways.

This is not to say the audience members who you place in a balcony seat are bad people – more so they are bad for your relationship.  Corey, over at A Simple Marriage, wrote an article “Are You Guilty of These Marriage Mistakes?”, and mistake #7 was ‘Unclear Boundaries with Family Members’:

Part of creating a marriage and a family requires boundaries around the marriage and the family. Picking up the phone to include your parents, or your children, in your marital difficulties often only exacerbates the issue.

Setting boundaries is important part in protecting, and building a strong marriage.   You cannot change the people around you…but you can change the people you are around.  Remember that front row seats are for special and deserving people and those who sit in your front row should be chosen carefully.  Everyone Can’t be in Your front row.

What’s your opinion on front row seats? Have you had to reassign a friend or family to the balcony, if so why?

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4 Responses to “Setting Boundaries: Everyone Can’t be in Your Front Row”

  1. Cindy July 27, 2010 at 1:20 pm #

    Our front row was immediate family only. We didn’t even have to specify this, people just knew and respected that courtesy/tradition. Everyone else sat wherever they wanted.

    I think it’s important that the family have the front and center seat and leave everyone else to sit where they will. You’re family has known you your entire life, have been with you through thick and thin and for all the major life changes, and shouldn’t have to worry about looking around someone else’s head as they witness you committing yourself to someone for the rest of your life.

  2. Tiffany In Houston July 27, 2010 at 2:20 pm #

    This was on point. I had had a draft post about this very subject for a few months now. I might need to dust it off and get it written.

    • natashawilliams July 27, 2010 at 2:34 pm #

      I’m sure as you plan your wedding you have had to place a few people on the balcony, I know I did.

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