Relationships are sacred, and it’s important for newly married couples to choose their audience carefully. That entails carefully
evaluating relationships with friends and family, and deciding if they deserve a front row seat, or if they should be placed in the balcony. Not everyone’s intention’s are good and positive. Not everyone is happy for you. Not everyone has your best interest as a couple at heart. People can be self-serving and selfish. Jealousy and envy can cloud a friend’s rationale, and make them act out in unloving ways.
This is not to say the audience members who you place in a balcony seat are bad people – more so they are bad for your relationship. Corey, over at A Simple Marriage, wrote an article “Are You Guilty of These Marriage Mistakes?”, and mistake #7 was ‘Unclear Boundaries with Family Members’:
Part of creating a marriage and a family requires boundaries around the marriage and the family. Picking up the phone to include your parents, or your children, in your marital difficulties often only exacerbates the issue.
Setting boundaries is important part in protecting, and building a strong marriage. You cannot change the people around you…but you can change the people you are around. Remember that front row seats are for special and deserving people and those who sit in your front row should be chosen carefully. Everyone Can’t be in Your front row.
What’s your opinion on front row seats? Have you had to reassign a friend or family to the balcony, if so why?
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