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During our wedding ceremony Dr. B and I read our own vows, and recited the traditional vows. We both felt it was important to be able to freely express our love for
Reading my vows to Dr. B
each other, while at the same time keeping with hundreds of years of wedding tradition. When we made the decision to write our vows, I was excited! After reading so much wedding porn, I had romanticized ideas swirling through my head. That is until I actually sat down to write them a month before our wedding. I got scared and stressed. I realized I had never written down my feelings for my husband-to-be. I consider myself a “good” writer, and words come naturally to me. But, it’s something about writing the words that will seal a life-long union, that makes the process a little overwhelming. I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to clearly capture the essence of my love for Dr. B. I was also afraid that I would sound like a bad greeting card(and embarrass myself). For inspiration and guidance I searched the Internet for love poems, bible scriptures, blogs, and read articles on how to write your wedding vows. It took several sleepless nights but, I think I did a pretty good job.
I guess I’m posting my vows because every morning I wake up besides my wonderful, generous, kind, patient, intelligent, gentle, understanding….Husband! How’s that for a reason to post your vows for the world to see So, here they are my wedding vows…
No one tells you when your young, what no one seems to understand, is that the best thing you can do is find the person that makes you want to be the best you possible.
The one person that does not complete you, but complements you, enhances you. Makes you shine your brightest next to them.
You, Bernard, are that person for me. I love you not only for who you are, but for who I am when I’m with you.
In the time that I have known you, I have found myself through my heart because of you.
YOU, love, ME for exactly who I am. You, with genuine loving patience, has peeled away my many layers, and spoken directly to my soul. Those walls I have built came tumbling down…they didn’t even put up a fight, they didn’t even make a sound.
My soul has come alive because of my love for you. In the Song of Solomon it says, “It was but a little that I passed from them, but I found him whom my soul loveth: I held him, and would not let him go.” Bernard, I promise I will hold on tight and not let you go.
Because, Paul D., you are my best thing. You love me when I am unlikeable. You see the small child in me and, the divine potential in me. You are the man of my dreams, the man of my hopes, and the man of my desires.
I Natasha, take you, Bernard, to be my husband. With the greatest joy I come into my new life with you. Today I am reminded of James 1:17 which says, “Every good thing bestowed and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.”
Besides the gift of salvation, you are the most precious gift God has given me. I know that along with the new joys God has given me, I face new responsibilities that I cannot fulfill in my own strength.
But by God’s grace and power working within me, I desire to be trustworthy as your wife, to serve and love you in all circumstances, to obey you, to allow God to use you to build His qualities in me, as long as God give us life on this earth. I praise God continually for you, Bernard, and for your love and friendship.
Dear readers, did you or did you not write your own vows, and why? Please share your wedding vow stories.