On the way home from Jacksonville Dr. B and I were watching The Power of Vulnerability a Ted Talk by Brene Brown who is a researcher and professor at the University of Houston. Dr. Brown has spent over 10 years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity and shame.
In the Ted talk Dr. Brown speaks about how we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness. It was a very, enlightening and informative video. I posted the video below, it’s only 20 minutes long, so I encourage you to watch it. In case you don’t, here are a few of the highlights from the talk:
- We live in a vulnerable world where we fear being vulnerable.
- We try to mask vulnerability.
- You cannot selectively numb emotions.
- We try to perfect ourselves
- We pretend that what we do doesn’t have an effect on other people.
- We are scared to let ourselves really be seen by others.
- We fear loving with our whole heart.
- We have to believe the we are enough.
After the video was over, Dr. B asked we what makes me feel vulnerable. I told him that I feel most vulnerable when I have to ask him or anyone for help. I don’t like asking people for help, it makes me feel incompetent, weak. Being single all those years, I became proud of taking care of everything by myself, not having to ask anyone for help. At times it has been an internal struggle for me to embrace the fact that now that I am married I don’t have to do everything, or even know how to do everything. We are team and we can work together to get things done.
My question to you is how do you define vulnerability, and what makes you feel vulnerable?